Sunday, October 7, 2012

THE 1ST TIME THEY FELL IN LOVE.













OUTFIT DETAILS
Dress // Belt - Asos
Shoes - TopShop
Bag - Zara

This was the first dress/item I got from Asos and I've had it for over two years and since then, Asos has been my go-to site for dresses. I have really gotten into the art of pencil dresses lately, I even wore one to uni and I had a few people asking me if I had a date later that day. (LOL) 

Pencil dresses remind me of liberation....of freedom....of self-love and confidence.  A couple of years back, I wouldn't be caught dead in a pencil dress because I was insecure and I was ashamed of my body. I wanted more. I wanted to be bigger and I know that sounds silly but I grew up in a place where all the 'boys' wanted curvier girls and I let that affect my self-esteem. (People still tell me today that I would be so much 'hotter' if I added more weight. Guess what? I DON'T CARE!). When I met Jesus Christ, I stopped focusing on what the boys thought and about what He thought and I realized and I am proud to say that I am beautiful in my own right. Emphasis on the word 'beautiful', not sexy. There is so much more to life than one's physical appearance. Being curvy or skinny, light skinned or dark skinned, white or black, natural or relaxed doesn't make you beautiful. Accepting that you are wonderfully and fearfully made by God, that's what makes you BEAUTIFUL and if you live for being SEXY, then I'm NOT sorry to say, but you might as well not live at all.

TOO MUCH MUSHINESS??? BACK TO OUTFIT DETAILS: I didn't go for my signature red lips today because I wanted a little change. (Never again. lol). It's really hard trying to put anything against a red dress because a red dress will always win but I think my red dress has found its match in these rose gold shoes

"Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. The question isn't whether God loves you. That's a statement of fact. The question is what are you doing to reject that love?"

Have a wonderful week. 

Lots of love,

47 comments:

  1. Astonishing piece n lovely pictures!!!!

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  2. Lovely dress and belt!

    Roni
    www.styleandpoise.blogspot.com

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  3. Your shape is great - good that you're happy with your body now. I emphasise fully with not being as curvy and stuff

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  4. your growing more and more beautiful every single time i see you! nice outfit :)

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  5. Beautiful! Love the belt ♥

    http://fantasyfashioned.blogspot.de/

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  6. I like the fit of the dress. The color red really suits you! Fabulous shoes! :)

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  7. That dress is PERFECT for you.
    Booming body!
    xo.
    www.fromhatstoheels.com

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  8. You have an amazing body girl, I love how flattering the dress is on you :) love your hair too!

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  9. You look stunning! This dress is great on you, love the colour too
    Saadiya xx

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  10. red suits you well darling!! and that belt im looking for d exact one!! thank u by d way on ur comment on my blog that will help a lot!!

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  11. I think this is the most amazing blog post I have read in a while. you're so right on everything you talked about and that last quote is absolutely phenomenon...matter of fact I'm about to re-post that quote. You look great just the way you are and yo're beautiful in your own way.
    That dress looks stunning on you. STAY BEAUTIFUL

    Fierceboldnclassy.blogspot.com

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  12. Your body is hot babe. Forrgeett.
    Plus I love how you did gold shoes instead of the regular black. I should try that sometime ^_^

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  13. you are so gorgeous girl!...true beauty really comes from within!

    btw been eyeing that belt on asos for the longest!..and now its sold out :( .LOL

    Cheers!!

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  14. LOVE your shoes, they're stunning! :)

    Charlee, MYSTRINGALING
    http://mystringaling.blogspot.co.uk/

    XX

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  15. Look gorgeous and the red and tailoring looks great on you too

    S-Bella

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  16. Wowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww, you are so stunning!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    XO

    http://afrovaidosas.blogspot.pt

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  17. Great post. Nice blog. Follow each other?
    http://solaanteelespejo.blogspot.com.es/

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  18. It's crazy how pencil skirts are so flattering on you! I think you have found what works with you I'm still on the way. I'm glad you're feeling better with the way you look because you're gorgeous :)

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  19. When i saw this post i thought hey that's my dress i just did a post for this coming out this week,i had to comment the dress and the colour is a perfect on you, Really enjoying the blog.

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  20. Hi Tomilola, i have been checking your blog for a while now, since u were featured on Shalewa and segilola's blog- for stylesake, and i really think you are very, very pretty facially. yoi have a rocking , absolutely gorgeous body ( i dont understand why you or anyone would want you to add some more weight cos i think you are so hot as you are), you have the warmest smile ever, it always seems like u are smiling from your soul, not just for the camera. i also think you are BEAUTIFUL, cos you have such a great heart and are a Jesus lover. Your fashion sense is so mature, so fantastic for your age, when i was ur age, i didnt even know what i was doing fashion-wise.
    keep doing what u do best and i wish you great success in your degree and everything else. Love you darling.
    Ps: i may have gotten carried away and too mushy, but i decided to write from my heart w/o editting, and yeah, i am female, and not gay.

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    1. LOL. We all get carried away sometimes. Thanks for all your kind words. They really lighted uo my heart! God bless!

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  21. You're absolutely right focusing on the right things in life ie. your faith walk and salvation is the only way to feel happy with no regrets!! Love the dress! keep doing your thing!

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  22. that's a great body! and the outfit too is stylish! just discovered your blog from the fashion bomb daily and I'm totally loving it. please check out mine on http://karimimbogo.blogspot.com/
    Thanks!

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  23. You look great on the outside and your beautiful spirit shines through from the inside. This was very well written and I totally agree with you. I get so sick of people talking about being sexy! Everything is not about that. We should value those things that God finds beautiful, a kind and giving heart, patience, and love for others. Stay blessed sista!

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  24. LOVE THIS!

    Kimberly
    KIMBERLYLUXE.COM

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  25. You guys are absolutely amazing! Thanks for all the beautiful words. They filled my heart with joy! <333333

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  26. love this look. seriously you're awesome. I ordered a dress from there not too long ago and I fell in love too, its about time to order another one after i've seen this one on you!!

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  27. LOve! the look...and the fact that you top it up with Christ makes it even better :)

    Pop into my blog for a look on www.erenesown.blogspot.com

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  28. amen to that sister... love your outfit and you are sexy and beautiful :D

    http://tiwistlye.blogspot.co.uk/

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  29. Red lipstick for the win. Everytime I go a few days without it I don't feel right :P The red dress is perfect on you

    http://kittyonadumpster.blogspot.co.uk/

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  30. hi.. i love your blog so much. i am thinking of getting this asos belt in the size small (32 inches. my waist is really tiny. and I am thinking of getting the belt and wearing it right below my bust. do you think it would fit and what size did you get yours in?.

    thanks a lot.

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    1. Hello,

      Thank you very much. I got the small as well but I had to make extra holes in the belt because my waist is a bit tinier than the belt. I wouldn't recommend putting a belt below your bust because that would be drawing unnecessary attention to your boob and it's for the waist so it should be on the waist so it can cinch it in.

      Hope this helps

      xx

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  31. nice outfit gurl....i love your blog. i'm a liberian and i like to be your friend too. i'm kinda new here but i'm really having fun and seeing good stuff. i love fashion too and i'm loving every thing about your blog. nice work.

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I am so glad you're taking the time out to comment. It really does put a smile on my face ♥